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How to Write the Perfect Wedding Ceremony Script (When a Friend or Family Member Is Officiating)
- Alexandra Voigt
- Apr 5, 2024
- 4 min read
Updated: Aug 5
Milwaukee couples love to personalize their weddings—and having a close friend or family member officiate is one of the most meaningful ways to do that. Whether you’re hosting a romantic chapel wedding, a backyard celebration in Wisconsin, or a private estate event, having someone you love guide your ceremony adds heart and authenticity.
But… what will they actually say?
If your officiant is getting ordained just for you, they’re probably a little overwhelmed with the task of writing your ceremony script. Don’t panic—we’ve got a full ceremony template and pro tips to help you create a custom, unforgettable ceremony that feels like you.
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Why So Many Couples Are Choosing a Friend as Their Officiant
Let’s be real: a traditional officiant or justice of the peace doesn’t always cut it when you want something personal and meaningful.
Choosing a close friend or family member to officiate your Wisconsin wedding can:
Add a personal touch from someone who truly knows your relationship
Create a more relaxed and familiar tone
Save money (especially helpful for budget-friendly backyard weddings in Wisconsin!)
Offer complete flexibility with wording, rituals, and flow
✨ But here’s the catch: writing a wedding script isn’t as easy as it looks. I’ve seen too many couples show up to their rehearsal only to find the script is awkward, embarrassing, or way too off-base. That's why I created this editable ceremony script template—so you don’t end up rewriting the whole thing 12 hours before your wedding.
Free Wedding Ceremony Script Template (for Friend Officiants!)
Below is a fully customizable script for your Milwaukee-area wedding—whether you're hosting it at a venue, private estate, or backyard. Feel free to copy/paste and personalize it as much as you'd like.
[🎵 Processional Music Begins]
Opening Remarks
Officiant:Friends and loved ones, we gather here today to celebrate the love between [Partner 1] and [Partner 2]. Today, they embark on a journey together, pledging their commitment and devotion to one another in marriage.
Welcome
Officiant:Welcome, everyone, to this beautiful celebration of love and unity. We are gathered here in the presence of family and friends to witness and celebrate the union of two souls…
✍️ (Insert a short story here about how you met, a funny moment, or something sentimental)
Optional Reading or Poem
Add a reading from a family member or friend—this is a great way to include loved ones who want a role in your ceremony!
Declaration of Intent
Officiant asks each partner the classic “I do” questions.
Exchange of Vows
Each partner shares their personalized vows. (Shorter vows work great here if you already shared private vows earlier.)
Exchange of Rings
Officiant:The wedding ring is a symbol of eternity...[Each partner places the ring on the other’s finger while repeating a short phrase]
Unity Ceremony (Optional)
Think sand ceremony, candle lighting, handfasting—or something personal like a peanut butter & jelly ritual (yes, really!).
Closing Remarks + Pronouncement
Officiant:Having pledged their love and commitment, I now pronounce you married. You may now kiss!
Presentation + Recessional
It is my honor to introduce, for the first time: [Partner 1] and [Partner 2]!
Personalizing Your Ceremony: Pro Tips from a Milwaukee Wedding Planner
Writing your wedding script can feel overwhelming—especially if your officiant isn’t sure where to begin. Here are a few tips to make it more fun (and less cringe):
🧠 Make It a Date Night
Light some candles, order takeout, and write your script together! It’s a romantic and productive wedding planning moment.
💬 Ask Loved Ones to Help
Let parents, grandparents, or close friends contribute a quote, memory, or reading.
🎭 Incorporate Your Vibe
Add humor, pop culture references, or nods to your favorite shows, books, or travel memories.
📝 Create Unique Moments
Ideas include:
A “social media minute” for guests to snap pics
Writing letters to each other instead of vows
A surprise choreographed dance or tribute
Real Talk: Avoid Ceremony Regret
I’ve had couples pull me aside at their rehearsal too many times, asking how to “fix” a ceremony script their friend or cousin wrote. And while I’m always happy to help rewrite last-minute, it’s stressful—and totally avoidable.
🎉 That’s why I created this free script template and tips guide—to help you avoid those awkward ceremony moments and feel completely at ease on your big day.
📥 Want the editable script + bonus templates? Let’s chat here about how we can help personalize your ceremony.
Planning a Backyard or Estate Wedding in Wisconsin?
If your wedding is happening at a private home, family property, or outdoor venue, you’ve got even more flexibility with your script—but also a few extra planning considerations.
📌 Pro Tip: Check out our full guide on Planning a Private Estate Wedding in Wisconsin with tips on logistics, rentals, permits, and more.
Final Thoughts: Have Fun With It
This is your moment. Whether you're planning an intimate backyard wedding in Wisconsin or a chic tented affair on a private estate, your ceremony should reflect you and your story.
Take breaks, collaborate with people you love, and remember that there’s no “right way” to do this. You get to decide what marriage means to you—and how you want to celebrate it.
💌 Want a planner who will help you bring all these meaningful details together—without the stress?Reach out to our team here to learn how we support couples planning Milwaukee-area weddings with heart, personality, and peace of mind.
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